Well last night I had an amazing Christmas celebration with my man, Matt! :) He did such a wonderful job! He knows me well! He surprised me with my own stocking filled with my faves! Then he got me a Marc Jacobs computer carrying case!! It's AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I absolutely LOVE IT!!!! He also got me a wireless iPod player!!! AHHHHH!!! I have been wanting one so bad cause I had left my old one at a hotel but this one is SO much better!!!
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My sweet iPod player!!! |
Pretty great!
Anyways I saw this link and thought I would share. Think it's definitely a great read and motivation for the new year!!! Enjoy ;)
30 Things to STOP!!!
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new
beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing
could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of
transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding
you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
- Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is
too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.
If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You
shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to
someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not
the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the
ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true
friends.
- Stop running from your problems. – Face them head
on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of
flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to
be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In
fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because
that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and
solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us
into the person we become.
- Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone
else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve
only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we
can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
- Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. –
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help
others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow
your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
- Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like
everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be
smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.
Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people
will love the real you.
- Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
- Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing
something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive
than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it,
and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the
things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
- Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may
love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how
things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person
and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have
struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your
mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has
ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to
come.
- Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things
we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really
satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our
passions.
- Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. –
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy
in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create
stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone
else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
- Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll
create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate
situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse
to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it
to second base with your foot on first.
- Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels
100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great
opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which
means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
- Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
– Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to
be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to
be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for
the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
- Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
– In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you
meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.
But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
- Stop trying to compete against everyone else. –
Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on
beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and
YOURSELF only.
- Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art
of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself
this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
- Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. –
Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand
everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back
on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often
see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of
mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a
lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
- Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with
hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the
people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is
okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my
happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace,
liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other
people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and
try to do better next time.
- Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
- Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
- Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
– The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.
If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
- Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. –
Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the
small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
you.
- Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
- Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life
is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
- Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. –
It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to
pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other
people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed
your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile
again.
- Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent
to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you
take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what
you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power
over that part of your life.
- Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing
so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one
person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their
world. So narrow your focus.
- Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip
tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to
check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this
question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five
years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
- Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. –
Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the
forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with
the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today,
and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
- Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad
you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere
else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about
what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else
is missing.
30 Things to START
- Start spending time with the right people. – These
are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage
you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who
make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
- Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your
problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from
them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you
can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about
taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches
count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
- Start being honest with yourself about everything. –
Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be
honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be
honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one
person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so
that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better
understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be
better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there. Read The Road Less Traveled.
- Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your
needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and
stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS
possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for
those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far
more capable of helping those who need you most.
- Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual
inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be
the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your
terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in
it, take yourself out of it.
- Start noticing and living in the present. – Right
now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.
Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in
the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past.
Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s
happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right
now.
- Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. –
Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re
not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re
not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try
again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and
improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at
the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear
might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
- Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a
friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to
yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The
way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who
you are or no one else will.
- Start enjoying the things you already have. – The
problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a
certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss
with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on
the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there,
and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind.
You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new
without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So take a quiet
moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are
and what you already have.
- Start creating your own happiness. – If you are
waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile
because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in
the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity
inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and
where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the
opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you
constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that
too. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
- Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In
life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance.
You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure
doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it!
And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it
should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
- Start believing that you’re ready for the next step.
– You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right
now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the
opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re
gifts that will help you to grow.
- Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
– Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect
the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you
are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect –
people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention
to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important
than their words or how others represent them.
- Start giving new people you meet a chance. – It
sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People
and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow.
Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go
of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new
relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory.
Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet
someone that might just change your life forever.
- Start competing against an earlier version of yourself.
– Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know
that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition
with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to
be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records.
- Start cheering for other people’s victories. –
Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an
appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good
places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those
who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for
their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or
later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
- Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations.
– When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and
look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope. Remind
yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times. And
remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in
your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not on what you
haven’t.
- Start forgiving yourself and others. – We’ve all
been hurt by our own decisions and by others. And while the pain of
these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. We
relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go.
Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or
forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment
and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on
with your life.
- Start helping those around you. – Care about
people. Guide them if you know a better way. The more you help others,
the more they will want to help you. Love and kindness begets love and
kindness. And so on and so forth.
- Start listening to your own inner voice. – If it
helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself
enough room to follow your own intuition. Be true to yourself. Say
what you need to say. Do what you know in your heart is right.
- Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
– Slow down. Breath. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and
move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a
brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.
These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your
recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
- Start noticing the beauty of small moments. –
Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big
promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that
happen every day. Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in
the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal,
or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or
holding hands with your partner. Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life.
- Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
– Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’ One of the biggest
challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the
world is learning to accept things as they are. Sometimes it’s better
to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are,
rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an
impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but
learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
- Start working toward your goals every single day. –
Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every
day to make it happen. Get out there and DO something! The harder you
work the luckier you will become. While many of us decide at some point
during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only
an astute few of us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I mean
consistently devoting oneself to the end result. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
- Start being more open about how you feel. – If
you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but
be open about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell them the truth
about how you feel. Let them listen. The simple act of getting things
off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good
again.
- Start taking full accountability for your own life.
– Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary
steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your
life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to
their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the
only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it
won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of
them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome
these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere
existence.
- Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
– Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love
by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis.
You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few
people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like
royalty. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a
number of friends you can be certain of.
- Start concentrating on the things you can control. –
You can’t change everything, but you can always change something.
Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond
your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.
Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
- Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
– The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of
actually doing it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and
destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are
stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace
negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation
seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next
positive step forward. No, you can’t control everything that happens to
you, but you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has
positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and
successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus
on. Read The How of Happiness.
- Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. –
Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully
experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to
keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to
wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a
minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have
access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can
read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be
grateful for all the things you do have.
Make 2012 the best year yet!!!
Love you all!! Talk tomorrow!!
XOXO
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Love, Dani |